Hello Please somebody clear my doubts. My boyfriend and I got into a very ugly fight and broke up he left without saying anything i looked for him found him and begged for forgiveness. Recently i realised he is a covert narcissist idk how right I am. But from the starting of relationship I used to be the one showering him with love money adoration but i fell into depression after 1.5 years and that’s when reactive abuse started happening where Id treat him same way he treated me and it got worse and worse but then he kept lovebombing me but now he left. Because the fight got out of hand and he broke his phone in rage his family came to know so he said he choosing his family over me but i know that when he is angry when fight, he even says of murdering them in rage. Since I was discarded this way i posted all his misdoings in social media but he is 0% accountable for his share of mistakes. After the break up I pleaded and begged for which he got in contact with me twice telling me its not gonna work out it was always my fault i was the crazy one he never forgives and what not. I insulted his parents in the last fight and his mom came to know his mom seems like the biggest enabler because now she is hiding him from repercussions he also insulted my parents that thing was in me for months and in every reactive abuse i say it I just can’t believe he can discard me like that. He don’t have a phone rn. He broke it into pieces i emailed i text in his mom’s phone no response he left me with all guilt and everything he turned everything on me. And said he was the one suffering. Most now his life is finish and everything. I was pleading and begging.
I’m really sorry to hear about the tough situation you’re going through with your breakup. It sounds like you’ve been dealing with a lot of emotional turmoil, and I want you to know that you’re not alone in these feelings. Dealing with someone’s behavior and recognizing the signs of a potentially toxic relationship can be really challenging, especially when it’s someone you care deeply about.
Based on what you’ve described, it’s important to acknowledge that relationships can be complex, and sometimes we find ourselves in situations that are emotionally draining and unhealthy. It’s brave of you to reflect on the dynamics and try to understand what might have been going on. The cycle of lovebombing followed by reactive abuse is something that can be indicative of manipulative behavior, though it’s important not to diagnose without professional guidance. Taking care of your mental health and well-being is crucial, and if you haven’t already, it might be helpful to reach out to a therapist or counselor who can provide you with some guidance and support during this challenging time.
It’s natural to feel hurt, confused, and even angry after a breakup, especially when things ended on such a tumultuous note. It’s important to give yourself space to heal and process your emotions. While it’s tough not to receive the accountability you’re hoping for, remember that your well-being should be your top priority right now. Surround yourself with friends and loved ones who can offer you the support and understanding you need. Stay strong and take the time you need to heal and regain your sense of self-worth. Remember, you deserve happiness and respect in any relationship.